This Ain't My First Rodeo

I'm determined to make it through this holiday season with little to no weight gain. So I'm going into it with a plan. Starting today, the kick off to the glutton fest. I'm writing it down to be held accountable, therefore, you get to know what it is.

Don't you feel privy and special?

1. Drink LOTS of water. And I mean lots! (in between the glasses of red wine...)
2. Wear tight pants. That's right, no elastic, no expanding, no sweatpants. I'll know when I'm done when my waistband cuts off circulation to my lower half.
3. Fill half my plate with veggies. So what if my sweet potatoes and green beans are swimming in butter.
4. Go on a walk pre and post meal. Ok, fine, so the post meal walk is really to make room for dessert.
5. Dessert. Oh dear. Stick to desserts that contain fruit. Pumpkin pie, berry pie, apple pie. Pecans are a protein nut, so I'll allow pecan pie too. Oh, and 1/2 fat, slow churned ice creams are clear too.

- Posted from my iPhone

Prayer of Thanksgiving

Everyday we have much to be thankful for, but do you give thanks everyday?   In the craziness of the holiday season, and the slowness of the rest of the year, don't forget to turn to the one who gives you such things to be thankful for.

God,
We thank you for all the abundant blessings and gifts You have given us.  Please let the Light of Your love continue to burn bright in us today, as we thank You and celebrate You.  Keep showing us Your will and giving us the resources and strength to do what You want us to do.

Let us find the way to love one another by seeing You, God, in our family and neighbors.  As we go forward again this day, in this life, let us always remember You and Love You.
Amen.

I would so love to hear what your prayer, blessings, or grace is at your Thanksgiving table.  Feel free to comment below.

A Prayer of Thanks

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

5 Ways Women Sabotage Their Relationships

Am I a saboteur?   I know I'm constantly trying not to sabotage my weight loss journey.  And sometimes I feel like I sabotage friendships.  Or maybe I manipulate...?  Either way, not good.  So, do I sabotage relationships too?  Well, let's see what eharmony has to say about how women sabotage their relationships...

1. You’ve refused to go out with a guy because he didn’t fit your perfect picture of Mr. Right.
   Is the guy you’re hoping to meet more myth than actual flesh and blood? If he is, then it’s time to think about the real guys you meet and how they might make you happy ever after without the fairy tale ending.  Ok, I'd like the opportunity to refuse to go out with a guy.  Seriously!  Sure, I know what I want in a guy, but in order to know if someone does or doesn't fit into what I'm looking for I first need to find someone to go on a date with and get to know.
   
2. You’ve judged a guy based solely on looks, and ignored the fact that he had a great personality.
   Great looks don’t last, but a caring man, who puts you first, might truly go the distance. A kind man who will be a faithful partner is the kind of happiness you can take to the bank. I'm not that shallow, but there needs to be some sort of instant attraction.  Right?
   
3. You have a pattern of getting into arguments with your significant other -- for no real reason.
   More often than not, the woman doing this habitually is experiencing a form of transference, in which you relive the wounds of past relationships. Remember this one simple rule, good endings help create good beginnings. If you take the time to heal those past relationship disappointments, there’s a good chance you’ll leave a lot of those needless arguments behind you. Um, guilty.  Doh!  How do I fix it and make it better?
   
4. You make fun of him or tease him about his passion for you.
   Most men are not Brad Pitt; that doesn’t mean they like to be reminded of their shortcomings in the area of romance. Bottom line: Never tell a man; instead, show him. Most men are rather inept in the art of intimacy and in truth are hoping to be taught. Think and show - not tell.  No comment.  Can't say I've had a problem with PDA before.
   
5.  You’ve left a relationship because it was easier than telling him how you really felt.
   Sure, it’s tempting at times to end rather than mend a relationship, but ask yourself this: Was that really the outcome you wanted? Relationships that go the distance ultimately rise and fall on trust. You can be loving and positive and still be honest. Sure it can be difficult to put your feelings out there; but if he indeed is Mr. Right, he’ll want to know, and most importantly, he’ll want you both to move forward as a couple. I'm the dumpee, never the dumper.  But I do know that I have trust issues, not just in dating relationships but also in friendship relationships.  I've been burned in the past and I'm afraid of getting burned again, so I error on the side of caution.
   

 There you have it, 5 ways women sabotage their relationships.  Sometimes it's good to hear the stuff that we don't want to hear.  Sometimes we do things without realizing, or we do realize but don't the the reasoning.  Reflect back on past relationship and try to figure out what happened, what went wrong, who was wrong.  (Ok, don't reflect back on that one, 'cause the other person is 99.9% of the time the wrong one, right?)

eharmony.com

If you're wondering why I keep posting all these eharmony articles, it's because for that fraction of a second that I had a paid membership I got put on their email list.  And apparently they still know that 1) I haven't found my soul mate, and 2) I need help!

Motivation Monday - Insanity

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November 21st:  1 Peter 4; Jeremiah 37-38; Psalm 137

"Children laugh an average of three hundred or more times a day; adults laugh an average of 5 times a day.  We have a lot of catching up to do."

-Heather King

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November 20th:  1 Peter 3; Jeremiah 35-36; Psalm 136

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

-1 Peter 3:3-4

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November 19th:  1 Peter 2; Jeremiah 33-34; Psalm 135

"What I expect from my male friends is that they are polite and clean.  What I expect from my female friends is unconditional love, the ability to finish my sentences for me when I am sobbing, a complete and total willingness to pour their hearts out to me, and the ability to tell me why the meat thermometer isn't supposed to touch the bone."

-Anna Quindlen